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Introduction
Abuse
Accidents
Addiction
Adultery
Alcohol Abuse
Anger
Anxiety
Arguments
Bankruptcy
Betrayal
Challenges
Chronic Illness
Chronic Pain
Church Discord
Death of a Child
Death of a Parent
Death of a Pet
Death of a Spouse
Depression
Disabilities
Disappointment
Dishonesty
Distrust
Divorce/Separation
Doubt
Drug Abuse
Dysfunctional Relationships
Elderly Parents
Enemies
Facing Death
Failure
Family Feuds
Family Stress
Fear
Financial Strain
Foreclosure/Eviction
Greed
Helplessness
Hidden Sin
Hopelessness
Infertility
Injustice
Insomnia
Job Loss
Job Stress
Litigation
Prodigal Children
Sickness
Surgery
Toxic Friendships
Unforgiveness
Violence
Weakness
Worry
Jesus said, “Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows.” It’s a promise: You can expect suffering during your lifetime. Jesus went on to say, “But take heart, because I have overcome the world” (John 16:33 NLT). This is good news, but it doesn’t necessarily mean the Lord will quickly resolve any difficulties you encounter.
What He offers is not a problem-free life, but the strength to endure your burdens and overcome your tests. Christians today are not spared many of the griefs that assail humanity—including financial pressures, bankruptcies, dysfunctional relationships, marital breakups, accidents, and diseases. This is why God gave us His Word, “that we through the patience and comfort of the Scriptures might have hope” (Romans 15:4 NKJV).
Devotions for Difficult Times draws from these deep wells of encouragement. It was written to breathe life into you when you are forced to walk a very difficult path. It doesn’t offer simplistic answers to serious problems, but it does offer hope—real hope—for your darkest hours.
This devotional declares boldly that God will never, ever forsake you, even when your way seems impossible, your circumstances seem unbearable, and you are most tempted to despair. May you find hope in these pages.
He tends his flock like a shepherd: he gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart.
ISAIAH 40:11 NIV
When the disciples tried to keep children away from Jesus, He said, “Let the little children come to me” (Mark 10:14 NIV). He then took them in His arms and blessed them. Gathering the lambs in His arms has always been Jesus’ way.
But if you have suffered abuse or neglect, gone hungry, or experienced trauma, you may wonder where the Lord was. And where is He now? The Bible assures you: “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted” (Psalm 34:18 NIV). God sees your pain. He loves you and cares deeply for you.
Whatever anyone has done to you, they have done to Jesus (Matthew 25:34–45), so He empathizes with your suffering. “In all their suffering he also suffered” (Isaiah 63:9 NLT). This is one reason Jesus was called “a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief” (Isaiah 53:3 KJV).
God not only knows when you experience grief, but He feels your pain and is there to comfort you if you will let Him.
“O you afflicted one, tossed with tempest, and not comforted.… You shall be far from oppression, for you shall not fear.”
ISAIAH 54:11, 14 NKJV
In these verses, God speaks to an afflicted person who has suffered from oppressors. Then He describes how she will be rebuilt with precious stones like a beautiful spiritual city (vv. 11–12). The imagery God invokes is strikingly similar to the heavenly Jerusalem in Revelation 21–22, and the similarity is intentional.
Have you suffered abuse in some form? Are you unable to find lasting comfort? Know that God can help you to gain victory over trauma, and He longs for you to experience peace. You can begin to enjoy a foretaste of heaven here and now.
God is able to restore your life and to build you up spiritually so that you will be strong and radiant. Allow His Holy Spirit to enter the darkest corners of your memories, wash away the fear, and cleanse you from guilt, anger, and insecurity.
Recovering from abuse can take years, but God can throw aside the curtains in sudden moments of revelation and splash His sunlight into your soul.
The Egyptians abused and battered us, in a cruel and savage slavery.
DEUTERONOMY 26:6 MSG
Women trapped in abusive relationships and children from dysfunctional families can identify with those words, “abused and battered,” yet they describe the desperate plight of God’s people in Egypt thirty-five hundred years ago.
The next verse says, “We cried out to God.… He listened to our voice, he saw our destitution, our trouble, our cruel plight” (Deuteronomy 26:7 MSG). “The Israelites groaned in their slavery and cried out, and their cry for help … went up to God” (Exodus 2:23 NIV). God heard them and set them free.
God knows the suffering you have endured, He hears your prayers, and His heart is moved. He will take steps to deliver you from your plight and to comfort you.
He is with you, even in the silence and loneliness, and in your darkest moments when you feel the most damaged and worthless, He looks on you as His own child, of inestimable worth. One day you will meet Him face-to-face and He will wipe all tears from your eyes (Revelation 7:17). In the meantime, He is always with you, comforting you.
“You make victims of the children and leave them vulnerable to violence and vice.”
MICAH 2:9 MSG
Frequently, children who are victims of abuse, violence, or neglect grow up insecure and, in later years, look for approval and acceptance in the wrong places. They may seek solace in alcohol or drugs, or search for fulfillment in unhealthy relationships, where they are vulnerable to further violence and vice.
You really have to admire those who had traumatic childhoods and yet are resolving and overcoming their issues to find wholeness and fulfillment. But it is not easy. God offers healing, but it takes a determination to rise above the past, to close the door to anger, and to build a new life in Christ.
“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new” (2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV). God does a major work in people’s heart at salvation, but complete transformation takes a lifetime. “We … beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image” (2 Corinthians 3:18 NKJV).
It takes time, but we are being transformed.
When you chop wood, there is danger with each stroke of your ax.
ECCLESIASTES 10:9 NLT
When you are injured on the job, you are filled with conflicting thoughts. On the one hand, you know that all occupations have hazards. Soldiers, policemen, and firemen are aware that their jobs are dangerous, but even desk jobs have liabilities.
Still, you may wonder, Why didn’t God protect me? After all, the Bible promises, “If you … make the Most High your dwelling, no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent. For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways” (Psalm 91:9–11 NIV).
Staying close to God definitely guards you from a great deal of misfortune, but the fact is, it won’t guarantee you a completely trouble-free existence. The Bible states, “People are born for trouble as readily as sparks fly up from a fire” (Job 5:7 NLT). That’s the way life is. We all get sick. We all feel pain. We all have accidents.
But the good news is: “There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you must endure many trials for a little while” (1 Peter 1:6 NLT).
Ahaziah had fallen through the lattice of his upper room in Samaria and injured himself.
2 KINGS 1:2 NIV
In Bible times, people covered their window openings with thin slats of wood called latticework. One day King Ahaziah was in an upper palace room and leaned heavily against the latticework, causing it to break. He plunged to the courtyard below and was seriously injured (2 Kings 1:2). Because he looked to the false god Baal-Zebub for healing, he died (vv. 16–17).
You may trust in God, but that is not a guarantee that you will never have an accident. The difference is that God constantly works on behalf of His children to bring great good out of tragedies. “All things work together for good to those who love God” (Romans 8:28 NKJV), even accidents.
When you suffer unexpected misfortune, God can see to it that you also experience unexpected good as a result—benefits such as spiritual depth, compassion, and patience.
You might rather do without spiritual benefits and simply enjoy a trouble-free, easy life, but God is seeking to transform you into a better person, and to do so, He often has to bring you through troubled times.
No one can predict misfortune.… So men and women are caught by accidents evil and sudden.
ECCLESIASTES 9:12 MSG
Many Christians believe that nothing happens randomly. They insist that God is in control of events down to the very tiniest details. And since He is able to protect them from all accidents and misfortune, when accidents happen God must have good reasons for allowing them, even if these reasons aren’t apparent.
This is true, but to focus on that is to miss the big picture. God is definitely able to micromanage events in believers’ lives to bring about His purposes, but it is important to realize that He is focused on the larger issues. The psalmist said of God, “Your thoughts are very deep” (Psalm 92:5 NKJV).
Some people demand, “Why, God?” They insist that God explain His actions. They desire an itemized justification for every injury He allowed. Meanwhile, God’s concern is the overall condition of their heart. He is watching whether they will trust Him no matter what.
The fact is, most times in this life you won’t understand why God has allowed an accident. So focus on what’s most important—loving Him and remaining true to Him through it all.
They will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
PSALM 91:12 NIV
You may be confused when reading the promises of Psalm 91. Verse 11 (NIV) says that God’s angels will “guard you in all your ways.” The very next verse promises that they won’t even allow you to stub your toe against a stone. However, you know from experience that you and most other believers do suffer injury from time to time, sometimes even serious injuries.
Yet the psalm promises, “No harm will overtake you” (v. 10 NIV). It sounds like you should expect to experience a totally blessed, trouble-free life. So what gives?
The answer is that this is the ideal state, promised when you passionately love God and know Him (v. 14). The opening verse states that these promises are for “whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High” (v. 1). You must constantly dwell close to God’s heart, sheltered by His presence.
Most Christians don’t abide that close to God. So although He still protects you, often in direct correlation to how close you are to Him, you will occasionally suffer accidents.
“What about the eighteen people who died when the tower in Siloam fell on them? Were they the worst sinners in Jerusalem?”
LUKE 13:4 NLT
Many Jews believed there were no such things as “accidents.” Whenever something bad happened to someone, it was considered God’s judgment on sin.
But at a certain level, this rationale breaks down. After all, carpenters use sharp tools to cut wood and end up with nicks and cuts fairly frequently (Ecclesiastes 10:9). So only the biggest accidents were considered judgments—but even so, this isn’t a cause-and-effect rule that applies in every case.
Proverbs 26:27 (NKJV) says, “He who rolls a stone will have it roll back on him,” so when eighteen people were killed by collapsing stones, many Jews were absolutely convinced that those men had been the worst sinners in the city. But Jesus disputed this.
He said that those men had been no worse than the people standing around pointing their fingers. They all were sinners, so it could have happened to any of them (Luke 13:5). Now, God sometimes does judge sin by allowing accidents, but only He knows each situation, so let’s stop judging others.
A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again.
PROVERBS 19:19 KJV
When you have an addiction, you find yourself compulsively indulging in harmful behavior, even though you know it is destructive. This is true for those prone to anger, but it is also true if your addiction is gambling, overeating, pornography, spending, or alcohol.
Someone may mercifully step in and deliver you from the mess you make of your life, and cushion the consequences of your actions, but does that really help? They will just have to do it again next week.
If you have an addiction, Paul’s words describe your dilemma: “I obviously need help! … I can will it, but I can’t do it. I decide to do good, but I don’t really do it; I decide not to do bad, but then I do it anyway.… Is there no one who can do anything for me? … The answer, thank God, is that Jesus Christ can and does” (Romans 7:18–19, 24–25 MSG).
When you finally come to the end of yourself, you are ready for God’s solution.
“I have made a covenant with my eyes; why then should I look upon a young woman?”
JOB 31:1 NKJV
Many men are addicted to pornography. It starts “harmlessly.” They allow their eyes to linger a few seconds on attractive women—in person or in the media—while entertaining fleeting thoughts of sexual pleasure. If they make little effort to resist such thoughts, they become more frequent. Eventually, they begin visiting explicit websites.
They can become addicted to the rushes of excitement, which are, however, followed by guilt and a weakened prayer life. Paul promises, “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God … will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it” (1 Corinthians 10:13 NKJV).
Four thousand years ago, Job said, “I have made a covenant with my eyes” (Job 31:1 NKJV). Job knew he had to nip lust in the bud. So he made a firm decision not to allow his eyes to linger on a young woman, not to indulge in even a fleeting lust.
He stopped lust cold—and it kept him from a great deal of trouble.
“A sow that is washed returns to her wallowing in the mud.”
2 PETER 2:22 NIV
One of the most frustrating things about an addiction is that even though you recognize that it is wreaking havoc in your life, and you make a decision to stop it, it often has such a powerful grip that before you know it, you are at it again.
Although it isn’t flattering to envision yourself like a pig rolling in the mud, it may be helpful to look at your addiction in light of this statement. The point of the word picture is that simply attempting to clean up your act on the outside isn’t enough. Until you have a change in your basic nature, you will continually return to your addiction after attempts to stop.
That is why you need the life-changing power of the Holy Spirit to take hold of your mind and spirit and bring about lasting change. This usually takes time, and it will certainly take repeated, desperate prayers. You have to really want change, doggedly pursue God, and not give up until He answers your prayers.
Fortunately, God continually gives you another chance, even after you mess up again.
You’re addicted to thrills? What an empty life! The pursuit of pleasure is never satisfied.
PROVERBS 21:17 MSG
Addictions come in many forms. Some people are addicted to prescription drugs. Many people are addicted to the love hormones, dopamine and norepinephrine, and constantly seek thrills from illicit sexual encounters. They “live for lustful pleasure” (Ephesians 4:19 NLT). Some people’s brains release dopamine when they are engaged in extreme sports. They receive a pleasurable reward from high-risk activities and so repeatedly come back for more.
But whether the thrills people pursue are illegal, immoral, or simply insanely dangerous, the Bible says that the constant pursuit of pleasure is never satisfied. A life lived only for selfish pleasure and fulfillment is empty, and it often becomes expensive very quickly. “Those who love pleasure become poor; those who love wine and luxury will never be rich” (Proverbs 21:17 NLT).
People are addicted to things and substances for the rewards they give them. If you want to break free from such addictions and truly enjoy life, you have to find fulfillment in God. “In Your presence is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore” (Psalm 16:11 NKJV).
Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive.
PROVERBS 6:32 MSG
Adultery truly is a mindless act. It is not that adulterers have no brain; the problem is that they are not listening to it. Against their better judgment, in the face of all they know to be true and right, they ignore their rational minds and allow their bodies to be swept along in a tidal wave of lust. Perhaps this tragedy has happened to you—or to your spouse.
God designed the love hormones, dopamine and norepinephrine, to create intense feelings of excitement and romantic passion. He intended a husband and wife to enjoy the pleasures of sex to the full. But He doesn’t sanction sex outside of marriage. His Word tells us, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4 NKJV).
Now, God will one day judge adulterers, but in the meantime, “a man who commits adultery … destroys himself” (Proverbs 6:32 NIV). He destroys integrity, love, trust, his marriage, and sometimes his entire life. If you have gone astray in this way, turn to God and He will have mercy on you.
“Anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
MATTHEW 5:28 NIV
Some of Jesus’ listeners were astonished when He informed them that a man who looks at a woman with sexual lust and fantasizes about having sex with her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. But that is precisely what he is doing. Jesus didn’t say the man had literally committed adultery. He said the man had done it “in his heart.”
The Lord also wasn’t talking about a passing thought—something most people experience—which they immediately resist. Some people have been needlessly condemned over this. Jesus was talking about focusing on someone with intense desire.
Most people, when they fantasize about having an adulterous affair, purposefully fill their thoughts with lurid mental images. This is what Moses was warning against when he wrote, “You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife” (Deuteronomy 5:21 NIV). To “covet” means to earnestly, persistently desire, to set one’s heart on something.
Eventually this leads to thoughts of how to actually have that person, not merely imagine it. That is why it is vital not to even start down that path.
They’re obsessed with adultery, compulsive in sin, seducing every vulnerable soul they come upon.
2 PETER 2:14 MSG
Many men and women are addicted to adultery. It gives them a rush. They are constantly on the lookout for dissatisfied married people who can be flattered and enticed to indulge in an illicit affair. Many men “creep into households and make captives of gullible women loaded down with sins, led away by various lusts” (2 Timothy 3:6 NKJV).
Of course, some women are the initiators. Like Potiphar’s wife, they are continuously looking for new bed partners (Genesis 39:7–12). The Bible warns, “Don’t … be taken in by her bedroom eyes” (Proverbs 6:25 MSG). And though “the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey” (Proverbs 5:3 NIV), they lead to death.
God knows that even though you are married, you will still find other members of the opposite sex attractive, and at times your hormones will fill you with powerful waves of desire. But don’t give in to them, or the day will come when you deeply regret it. Once you have betrayed your husband or wife, it can take a long time and many prayers and tears to rebuild his or her trust.
You must not commit adultery.
EXODUS 20:14 NLT
Five short words, but they serve to safeguard you from a very destructive sin. God knew that most people would—at some point or another—be tempted to commit adultery, so He put up a billboard commanding you not to do it.
Remember, “no temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind” (1 Corinthians 10:13 NIV, emphasis added).
Sexual attraction is a powerful force, and God designed it to help bond husbands and wives together. But even believers, if they are not careful, can be overcome by the siren call of extramarital sex. That is why you must internalize God’s command and take steps to keep yourself safe.
You can’t keep from noticing that someone is sexually attractive—especially if they have gone to pains to make themselves look that way—but you can keep your eyes from sneaking back for a second and third glance.
If you find your imagination constantly excited by someone else’s husband or wife, persistently resist such thoughts. Take definite steps to make sure that you don’t ever end up alone with that person. Do these things and God will keep you from falling.
“They are all adulterers. Like an oven heated by a baker.… They are all hot, like an oven.”
HOSEA 7:4, 7 NKJV
Feelings of sexual desire can be very powerful. Such passion is entirely appropriate with your husband or wife, but inappropriate outside marriage.
Hosea compared the adulterers of Israel to “an oven heated by a baker,” where the baker added fuel to the barely burning coals in the oven. Hosea 7:4 (NKJV) adds, “He ceases stirring the fire after kneading the dough.” But up until that time the baker had worked to stir up a blazing fire.
Just so, people who commit adultery usually feed the flames of desire with sexual images. Adultery is often a deliberate, premeditated act. One good way to avoid this is to get rid of any fuel so you can’t feed the fire. This means ridding your home of pornography and refusing to view it on the Internet. Doing these things will greatly reduce the problem.
In addition, remember the Bible’s advice: “It is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:9 NKJV). And if you are already married, be satisfied with that (Proverbs 5:18–20).
Who has needless bruises? Who has bloodshot eyes? Those who linger over wine.
PROVERBS 23:29–30 NIV