Personal Development All-in-One For Dummies®

 

By Rhena Branch, Mike Bryant, Kate Burton, Peter Mabbutt, Jeni Mumford, Romilla Ready, and Rob Willson

Edited by Gillian Burn

 

 

 

About the Authors

Gillian Burn has over 25 years of experience in health and wellbeing. Her background covers nursing, midwifery, and health visiting, including experience working with the Flying Doctor Service in the Australian outback.

Gillian has an MSc in Exercise and Health and is a qualified master practitioner in Neuro-linguistic Programming, time line therapy®, and in creating healthy environments. She is a licensed instructor for Mind Mapping® techniques and speed reading with Tony Buzan, and a licensed instructor in Body Control Pilates® with the Body Control Pilates Academy.

Gillian is the Director of Health Circles Ltd (), providing training programmes and consultancy services focusing on improving health and quality of life for individuals and companies. Her workshops focus on training people to use their mind and bodies to increase energy and performance. This includes nutrition and exercise advice, understanding the mind and body connection, creating balance, and techniques to increase creativity and effectiveness.

Gillian also provides life coaching to help clients create a compelling future to reach their full potential and peak performance. Gillian aims to practice what she preaches! She rows on the River Thames and enjoys swimming, walking, yoga, and pilates.

Rhena Branch, MSc, Dip CBT, is an accredited CBT therapist and works with the Priory Hospital North London as a CBT therapist. She also has her own practice in north London and supervises on the Masters’ course at Goldsmith College, University of London.

Mike Bryant is an African-American who has lived in England since 1984. Mike is a qualified psychiatric social worker, counsellor, and hypnotherapist and has also worked as an Information Technology and Project Manager. With extensive experience in both America and the United Kingdom, Mike has established a range of innovative mental health schemes in London as well as having provided senior service development consultancy to NHS Mental Health Trusts across England, Ireland, Scotland, and Wales as a Senior Consultant with the Sainsbury Centre for Mental Health (SCMH). While at SCMH, he published a range of papers and reports on mental health issues.

Mike currently lives in London with his wife and family and has a private practice as a counsellor and as hypnotherapist. You can find more information about Mike’s practice at .

Kate Burton is an NLP coach and trainer who enables individuals and organisations to focus their energy effectively. Her business career began in corporate advertising and marketing with Hewlett-Packard. Since then she has worked with many varied businesses across industries and cultures on how they can be great communicators. What she loves most is delivering custom-built training and coaching programmes. She thrives on supporting people in boosting their motivation, self-awareness and confidence. Her belief is that people all have unique talents, abilities and core values. The skill is about honouring them to the full.

Peter Mabbutt is Director of Studies at the London College of Clinical Hypnosis (LCCH) and lectures throughout the UK and overseas to both lay students and medical practitioners. He is responsible for the development of the LCCH’s core courses and with his colleagues has introduced many new techniques and subjects to the curriculum, ensuring that it continues to meet the needs of the modern-day hypnotherapist.

With a background in psychopharmacology Peter co-authored a range of papers on tranquilisers, anxiety, and learning and memory before training with the LCCH to become a hypnotherapist. Peter has a specialist interest in the mind-body connection, weight control, the treatment of trauma, and hypertension.

Jeni Mumford is a coach and facilitator who applies whole-life coaching techniques to her work with people and within businesses. Before her own life-changing decision to become a coach, Jeni benefited from a 16-year career with the Hays group, spanning recruitment, sales operations, project management, and people development, where she was lucky enough to embark on a new challenging job role every 18 months or so. It was this experience of discovering that the grass is green wherever you are – if you take proper care of the lawn – that gave Jeni the conviction and motivation to build her purpose around inspiring people to attract and enjoy their own dream life and work. In her business Jeni uses best practice coaching techniques together with NLP, and is a licensed facilitator of Tetramap (a holistic model of behaviour) and Goal Mapping (a brain-friendly technique for identifying and maximising progress towards goals). She is addicted to learning and this helps her add value to her work with clients. But in her moments of brutal self-honesty Jeni will admit that quite a lot of the credit is down to the succession of cats who have owned her, from whom she has picked up a great deal about how to handle the ups and downs of life.

One of the things Jeni likes best about being a coach is that she feels she always gets as much if not more out of the experience than her clients and she can’t thank them enough for the honour of seeing them move themselves from frustration to power. Honestly, it’s enough to make you want to write a book about it. You can find out more about Jeni and her business at: .

Romilla Ready is a Master Practitioner of Neuro-linguistic Programming, and is the director of Ready Solutions, which was founded in 1996. She runs professionally developed workshops across a range of areas and has trained clients in the UK and overseas, using her cross-cultural skills to build rapport between different nationalities. Romilla has been interviewed on local radio and has had articles on stress management and applications of NLP published in the press.

Rob Willson, BSc, MSc, Dip SBHS, has worked for the Priory Hospital North London for a number of years as a CBT therapist. Rob also teaches and supervises trainee therapists at Goldsmith’s College, University of London, and has his own practice in north London. His first book was Overcoming Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (Constable & Robinson, 2005), co-written with Dr David Veale.

Rob has done numerous newspaper and radio interviews about CBT. More rarely he’s appeared on television discussing understanding and treating body image problems. His particular interests include the research and treatment of obsessional problems, and applying CBT in group and self-help formats.

 

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Contents

Introduction

Welcome to Personal Development All-in-One For Dummies, your launch pad to understanding the basics of the key techniques and therapies available for personal development.

As a human (we’re assuming you’re not a cat if you’re reading this book), at some stage in your life you’re likely to experience some sort of emotional problem that you’d like to surmount and you’re interested in arming yourself with the techniques to help you tackle those problems. Perhaps you’re tired or fed-up with the way some things are for you now and want to find interesting and useful information to enhance your life. If so, this book is a great starting point.

About This Book

If you’re embarking on a journey of self-help or self-improvement, this book provides an introduction to the most popular and widely used techniques for personal development by:

bullet Focussing on how to use the techniques yourself.

bullet Providing practical exercises for you to try out.

bullet Outlining different methods of approaching your particular goal or problem.

The techniques described in this book are applicable for all aspects of mental health – from positive thinking and goal setting, to tackling specific psychological problems such as anxiety and addiction.

You can read further details in other For Dummies books or see a practitioner if any of the methods in particular take your fancy. If you’ve read all there is to read in this book but still want more, check out the extra information in these For Dummies titles (all published by Wiley):

bullet Cognitive Behavioural Therapy For Dummies (Rob Willson and Rhena Branch)

bullet Hypnotherapy For Dummies (Mike Bryant and Peter Mabbutt)

bullet Life Coaching For Dummies (Jeni Mumford)

bullet Neuro-linguistic Programming For Dummies (Romilla Ready and Kate Burton)

Conventions Used in This Book

To make your reading experience easier and to alert you to key words or points, we use certain conventions in this book:

bullet Italics introduces new terms, and underscores key differences between words.

bullet Bold text is used to show the action part of bulleted and numbered lists.

bullet Case studies in the book are illustrative of actual clients we have treated and are not direct representations of any particular client.

What You’re Not to Read

You can read this book cover to cover or skip through just reading the section that interest you the most. If you’re not in the mood for games, you can skim read the sections accompanied by a ‘Try This’ icon (but maybe you’ll revisit them a little later?). You can also glean plenty of information from this book without reading the sidebars (the grey boxes) – the detail in our sidebars is interesting but not crucial to understanding the rest of the book’s content.

Foolish Assumptions

In writing this book we’ve made a couple of assumptions about you:

bullet You have a general interest in self-improvement and personal development techniques.

bullet You’re looking for ways to become more the sort of person you’d like to be and you’re looking for inspiration and practical guidance on how to take your living experience to new levels of achievement, happiness, and success.

bullet You’ve heard about a particular technique, or have had a technique suggested to you by an advisor, friend, doctor, or mental health professional as a possible treatment for your specific difficulties.

How This Book Is Organized

We’ve divided Personal Development All-in-One For Dummies into five separate books. This section explains what you’ll find in each of these books. Each book is broken into chapters tackling key aspects and skills. The table of contents gives you more detail of what’s in each chapter, and we’ve even included a cartoon at the start of each part, just to keep you happy.

Book I: Essential Concepts of Personal Development

This book is an introduction to the four core methods included in Books II – V. The chapters within walk you through the basics of each aspect of personal development, guiding you through definitions and exploring the main skill sets and applications of each. If you’re new to personal development, this book will help you decide which area to focus on first.

Book II: Neuro-linguistic Programming

By showing you how to monitor and adapt your thinking, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) can help you break free from negative thoughts and cultivate more useful inner beliefs about yourself and your world. Neuro-linguistic Programming is a common sense system of everyday psychology that has enhanced millions of lives.

Book III: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Whether you’re trying to fight anxiety and depression, beat addiction, or simply lose weight, the key to success is learning how to think differently. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is a practical, sensible, and effective approach to help you master your thoughts and think constructively.

Book IV: Hypnotherapy

If you think hypnosis is just for stage tricks and party games, think again; this book explains how hypnotherapy works and shows you how to use it to treat a wide range of problems. Whether you’re seeking to overcome anxiety or depression, improve performance, lose weight, or beat an addiction, hypnotherapy can help you make the positive changes you need to achieve your goals.

Book V: Life Coaching

Life coaching uses a range of practical, effective, and purposeful techniques to help you challenge negative beliefs, find answers to your own questions, and create the life that you want. Whether you’re looking to make a change, or simply achieve more balance in your life, this book explains what to expect from life coaching and shows you how to develop your own coaching techniques – enabling you to establish an action plan, stay focused, and be inspired to achieve what you want, in all aspects of life.

Appendix

The appendix presents you with blank forms to use alongside five of the exercises outlined in the text. Flicking through to the appendix, you’ll see that each form comes with a reference to the relevant book and chapter to use it with.

Icons Used in This Book

When you flick through this book, you’ll notice little icons in the margins. These icons pick out certain key aspects of personal development:

Tip

This icon highlights practical advice to get our personal development methods working for you.

Remember

This icon is a friendly reminder of important points to take note of.

JargonAlert2

This icon highlights personal development terminology that may sound like a foreign language but which has a precise meaning in the personal development world.

TryThis

This icon suggests ideas and activities to enable you to practice personal development techniques, and give you more food for thought.

Warning(bomb)

This icon marks things to avoid in your enthusiasm when trying out personal development skills.

Where to Go from Here

If you’re most interested in life coaching (for example), head straight over to Book V, or if Neuro-linguistic Programming appeals, check out Book II. However, if you’re not sure which type of help you’re most interested in, or just fancy an overview of the entire subject, turn the next page and get stuck into Book I, explaining the basics of each form of personal development.

Good luck to you, and we wish you the best in finding the answers you’re looking for.

Book I

Essential Concepts of Personal Development

In this part . . .

This book explains the basic concepts behind Neuro-linguistic Programming, cognitive behavioural therapy, hypnotherapy, and life coaching – in short, it’s a handy introduction to the rest of this title’s content. If you’re not sure what the difference is between them, this is the place to start; and if you’re well aware of the differences between these disciplines, take a look at the chapters in this book to see how they interact or approach problems from different directions.