“Bruce has a remarkable ability to examine today's important management issues and provide useful and ‘hands on' tools to help every organization improve their leadership effectiveness. I really appreciate the unique insight in this book and will be able to use this to tackle this important challenge with our changing workforce.”
Jon Morrison, President, WABCO, Americas
“Once again Bruce has his finger on the pulse beat… As with his previous works addressing generational differences within the workplace, the reader finds him/herself nodding in recognition of the behaviors characterized by Gen Zers. Bruce goes beyond the commentary by providing practical guidance on how employers can work with their young talents to help them develop the soft skills they will require in order to reach their full potential”
Jack Dwyer, VP Human Resources and Administration,
ASSA ABLOY, Inc.
“Well researched, practical and immensely readable, Bridging the Soft Skills Gap is destined to be a go-to book for any leader charged with managing during this turbulent changing of the employee guard.”
Joni Thomas Doolin, CEO, TDn2k; Founder, People Report
Traditional rules don't apply in appealing to and engaging our extremely talented younger generation. This book is a valuable and practical resource for any manager who wants to effectively manage and motivate this important and ever-growing part of our workforce.”
Andy Ajello, Senior Vice President of Diabetes & Obesity Sales, Novo Nordisk, Inc.
“As companies like ours develop new solutions in a rapidly transforming industry, it is critical that we identify, recruit and engage new talent that can help lead these transformations. Bruce provides a critical tool in this step by step training guide.”
Raymond R. Ferrell - EVP General Counsel and Corporate
Secretary, Dex Media, Inc.
“This book reflects authentic thought leadership and will be of great value to all executives who are smart enough to buy the book!”
Daniel Butler, Senior Advisor, National Retail Federation; President, Maple Point Consulting
“Bruce Tulgan has done it again. He has not only well framed the issue of the soft skills gap, but has also given today's managers practical advice for dealing with it.”
Hank Harris, President and Chief Executive Officer, FMI Corporation
“Teaching today's young talent basic soft skills can be a magnificent legacy for seasoned pros. This book is a must-read for managers in any industry, and it is especially relevant in the service sector where soft skills are the face of our business.”
Sharon McPherson, Director of Training & Development,
On The Border Restaurants
“Bruce's book is such a timely and relevant read for managers. As always, he masterfully lays out the research as to what makes Gen Zers unique, why we should be excited to have them, and the most effective performance development strategies to motivate and bring out the best in them. The best part of this book is the hundreds of practical and adaptable lesson plans he provides to develop basic, yet vital interpersonal skills to help an early career professional become your strongest contributor.”
Kristen Storey, Organizational Learning Director, Learning &
Professional Development, University of Michigan
“HOW you conduct yourself and get the work done will always trump technical skills. This book distills the HOW in a way that can truly transform performance. It is a wealth of information and on-point in speaking to an issue we need to harness in the workplace quickly, and should be mandatory reading for every manager/leader out there!”
Melissa Feck, Vice President, Human Resources,
Health Care Association of New York State
“Bruce Tulgan's book provides great insight, ideas and resources for a manager leading the new college graduates in the workforce. Adjusting to a regular schedule and leaving the freedom of college and youth is a challenge for many - they lack many soft skills. Bruce provides specifics to help the leader guide the new employee to learn key skills in the context of the work which helps them be successful without losing their desire to be unique.”
Sue Hiser, Program Director, Leadership Development,
Ohio Health
“Bruce Tulgan has done it again. Bridging the Soft Skills Gap doesn't just describe the challenges I see every day with my talented young team - it provides real tools for their development. Businesses and their valued young employees will benefit from these resources and reap long-term rewards.”
Janet Kyle Altman, Marketing Principal,
Kaufman Rossin
“If you want to learn how to teach, inspire and lead today's young talent, read as Bruce magically mixes actual life examples with solid leadership principles. This book will give you complete knowledge of what you need to know to lead today.”
Doug Sterbenz, EVP & COO Westar Energy (Retired); Present to Win,
National Speaker and Leadership Coach
“Many managers lament that Millennials lack soft skills like professionalism or followership but then struggle with how to address the gap. In his now well established style, Bruce Tulgan's latest book offers detailed, practical training lesson plans for each of a dozen soft skills. “
Alan Krezco, “The Artist formerly known as” Executive Vice
President and General Counsel (retired), The Hartford
“After reading this book, I just keep thinking, ‘It all makes sense now!’ Incredible insight into understanding the next generation of talent in today's workforce. This book has forced me to think about how to restructure on-boarding and training efforts that will result in more successful and productive employees and teams.”
Sheri Petrie, Training & Coaching Consultant, Mid-Atlantic
Permanente Medical Group
“This remarkable book is a must have for any manager with young talent to lead. With extensive scripts and step-by-step lesson plans to improve what Tulgan calls the ‘missing basics,’ it provides everything a manager needs to turn a mediocre younger worker into a truly valued, key player.”
Deborah Orlowski, Ph.D., Senior Learning Specialist, Learning and
Professional Development, University of Michigan.
“This is one of the best books I have ever read when it comes to teaching “soft skills” to a group of young employees in the workplace. To bridge the gap between Gen Z and their supervisors, managers, leaders, and executives and create a collaborative workforce both groups are provided with specific skills sets through exercises and concepts. The book is a must read for those who want to increase their productivity and workplace morale.”
Steve Hanamura, President, Hanamura Consulting, inc.; Consultant, speaker and author
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Tulgan, Bruce, author.
Bridging the soft skills gap : how to teach the missing basics to today's young talent / Bruce Tulgan.
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Includes index.
ISBN 978-1-118-72564-1 (cloth); ISBN 9781119138150 (ePDF); ISBN 9781119138167(ePub)
1. Soft skills. 2. Generation Y–Employment. 3. Business etiquette. 4. Personnel management. I. Title.
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This book is dedicated to my beloved agent, the great genius
—Susan Rabiner
This book is the product of more than twenty years of ongoing research on young people in the workplace. At this point, all told, hundreds of thousands of individuals have contributed to our surveys, interviews, and focus groups since we first began our workplace research in 1993. First and foremost, I always thank everyone who has participated in this research over the years.
Thanks also to the very many business leaders who bring me in to learn from and help your managers facing real challenges every day in the real world. To the hundreds of thousands who have attended my keynote addresses and seminars: thanks for listening, for laughing, for sharing the wisdom of your experience, for pushing me with the really tough questions, for your kindness, and for teaching me. My greatest intellectual debt is to the managers who have participated in our seminars—I've learned so much from helping them wrestle with their very real management problems in the real world. Special thanks to those managers whose real stories appear in this book; I've mixed up the ancillary details to help keep the stories anonymous.
Welcome to Dr. Bennett Graff, our new chief of operations at RainmakerThinking. Thank you for your confidence in this enterprise and the excellent contributions you are making every day to our mission and our business. We are going to do great things together, Bennett.
To our very dear old friends and my interim management team, business partners Chris Glowacki and Kristin Campbell and their entire family to the furthest extent of consanguinity, but especially Lily, Albert, Herbie, and Stella: Thank you for your friendship and your family and your contributions to this enterprise. I am very grateful. We love you all, every one.
To Susan Ingraham, my longtime executive assistant (and one of the most reliable, considerate, even-tempered, and good-hearted people I have ever known): Thank you so much for everything you do, Susan. I honestly don't know what I would do without you. You have my undying gratitude and loyalty.
To Liz Richards, who has been serving at RainmakerThinking for less than a year at this writing (but has already proven herself among the very best of her very young generation): Thank you, Liz, for your everyday professionalism, critical thinking, and followership. We are very grateful.
Now, to the publisher and the editors:
To everyone at Wiley and Jossey-Bass: Thanks to every one of you who has put your faith and good thinking and hard work into the books we have done together, especially this one.
Karen Murphy, my editor on THE 27 CHALLENGES MANAGERS FACE, and my editor on this book until the late stages, has moved on in her career, but not before helping me conceive and re-conceive this book a number of times. Thanks to you, Karen, for all of your help along the way.
My brand new editor, the very talented and skilled Judy Howarth, has adopted me and this project in the late stages. She did so with kindness and conviction, and I have no doubt that her excellent work makes this book very much better. I am extremely grateful.
Then I always come to the great, great, great Susan Rabiner, to whom this book is dedicated. Susan is not only a world-class literary agent for me and also for my wife, Debby. Susan has become a true, dear, beloved friend and absolutely one of our very most favorite people in the world. When this book was going through draft after draft—when I was struggling to zero in on the issues that were truly at stake and the research that was truly most relevant—Susan demonstrated why she is considered one of the most brilliant minds in non-fiction publishing. Since we first met in the late 1990s, I have not written a book that Susan has not influenced profoundly. But this book is dedicated to Susan because her guidance and support in this effort was beyond even her usual heroics. It is not an overstatement to say that Susan Rabiner is simply the smartest and the best editorial mind in non-fiction publishing. She and her husband, the late genius Al Fortunato, wrote the book about writing and publishing non-fiction, Thinking Like Your Editor: How to Write Great Serious Nonfiction—and Get It Published. Susan is nearly 100 percent responsible for my success as a writer. How can I thank Susan enough?
My family and friends are the anchors of meaning in my life. First, thanks to my parents, Henry Tulgan and Norma Propp Tulgan, for raising me as well as you did. You are both among my very closest friends to this day, and I treasure the time we spend together. I neglected to visit my beloved parents for several months because I was so under the gun finishing this book in time. I would be ashamed for not visiting more except that the whole time, true to form, they insisted, “Don't come visit until you finish your book. We'll see you when you finish.” What I owe to my parents could fill much more than one book, but it definitely includes my work ethic!
Thanks also to the rest of my beloved family: My parents-in-law, Julie and Paul Applegate; my nieces and nephews (from oldest to youngest): Elisa, Joseph, Perry, Erin, Frances, and Eli; my sister, Ronna, and my brother, Jim; my sister in-law, Tanya, and my brothers in-law, Shan and Tom. I love every one of you very, very much.
I always add a special extra thanks to my niece, Frances, because I have always thought of her as if she were my own child.
Finally, I always reserve my last and most profound thanks for my wife, Debby Applegate. For many years now, Debby and I have worked side-by-side, writing. For me, to be writing in her company is an honor and an inspiration. Among her many impressive credentials, Debby won the 2007 Pulitzer Prize for her biography of Henry Ward Beecher! While I have made my way through this manuscript, Debby has been hard at work on what is likely to be yet another of the great American biographies of this century. This one is about a now largely forgotten figure of the 1920s—Polly Adler. Just wait. You're going to be bowled over by it. It's hard to believe that, by the date this book is published, it will be thirty years since our first date in September of 1985. We've been together ever since. There is nothing—absolutely nothing—I have done since the day I met Debby that has not been profoundly influenced by her. Debby is my constant adviser, my toughest critic, my closest collaborator, the love of my life, my best friend, my smartest friend, my partner in all things, half of my soul, owner of my heart, and the person without whom I would cease to be.
Today's newest new young workforce has so much to offer—new technical skills, new ideas, new perspectives, new energy. Yet, too many of them are held back—and driving the grownups crazy— because of their weak soft skills.
Managers tell us every day in our research some version of what one middle-aged manager in a pharmaceutical company told me: “When I was young and inexperienced, I may have been naïve or immature, but I knew enough to wear a tie, make eye contact, say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ and ‘yes, sir’ and ‘yes, ma'am,’ and when to shut up and keep my head down and do the grunt work without having to be told over and over again.”
Indeed, the incidence and insistence of managers complaining about the soft skills of their new young workers has risen steadily year after year since we began tracking it in the mid-1990s, when Generation Xers were the “New Dogs” on the scene. Specifically, what issues do managers complain about most? Here's what managers most often say:
There is a growing gap between the expectations of employers and the reality of how today's new young talent is showing up in the workplace. Today's young stars may well show up with the latest and greatest skills and methods. Indeed, many of them seem to have developed almost “superpowers” in their chosen areas of interest and focus. They are often masters of the newfangled. What they are missing—way too often and more and more—is the old-fashioned basics, what many refer to as “the soft skills.”
What do young people have to say about the widely perceived widening soft-skills gap? Mostly, they say, “That's so true about my friends and me!” or else “Seriously?!” and then, either way, “So what?!”
To that, I usually respond, “Well, it drives the grown-ups crazy and it's holding you back. If you were to radically improve on these soft skills, it would give you a huge strategic advantage in your career.” The good news is that this is almost always enough explanation to capture their attention and interest in improving.
What do business leaders and managers say when I tell them how they can lead their new young talent through the growing soft-skills gap? Often the first response is something like this response from a long-time partner in a large accounting/consulting firm: “This should NOT be our problem to solve! Shouldn't they have already learned all these old-fashioned basics from their parents? Or in kindergarten? Or at least in high school or college? Or graduate school for that matter? Certainly by the time they come to work as an associate at this firm, they should know how to get themselves to work on time and behave properly. Am I supposed to teach them how to cross the street, too?”
That comment brings to mind an aggressive public service campaign sponsored mainly by Yale University, here in New Haven, Connecticut, where we live. The City and the University have sponsored signs all over town, as well as other public education resources, spelling out the basics of safe pedestrian behavior. This was in part a response to the ubiquitous traffic hazard of Yale students jaywalking while staring down at their hand-held devices. In other words, some of the smartest kids in the world today—the cream of the crop, the future doctors, scientists, accountants, engineers, professors, and leaders in every industry—needed an aggressive public education program in order to learn how to cross the street. As one official told me: “They have all the latest tools and tricks, but I guess they are somewhat lacking in a lot of the old tricks. What's really interesting is that the program works. They are actually getting much better at crossing the street.”
Here's what I tell my clients: If you employ young people nowadays, then the soft-skills gap is your problem. That's the bad news. So here's some good news: You can bridge the soft-skills gap, and doing so will give you a huge strategic advantage when it comes to hiring the best young talent, bringing them on board and up-to-speed faster, better performance management, improved relationships, and greater retention rates among the best young talent.
For years, I've used the military as my “ace in the hole” when making the business case that organizations can and should invest in bridging the soft-skills gap. I would typically point to the Marines’ Boot Camp, for example, and say, “The Marines can take an ordinary young person and turn him or her into a United States Marine in just thirteen weeks, and together these young Marines make up the most effective fighting force in the history of the world.” Of course, most organizations don't have the resources (or the inclination) to run the equivalent of their own boot camp. (Some do, by the way, and it works like a charm. But those organizations are few and far between.)
The really good news is that you don't have to put your young employees through the equivalent of a boot camp in order to have a huge impact on their soft skills. In fact, we've collected hundreds of case studies, best practices, and teaching methods from organizations and individual managers who have systematically helped their new young employees radically improve their soft skills. There are many, many ways you can help them build up one soft skill at a time and thereby make them much more effective and successful employees, co-workers, and future leaders.