Praise for Upgrading Your Future:

“Thank goodness for the kind act of one man and the loving thankful words expressed here by this young dynamo of a woman! Tesia simply got an early lesson in thankfulness and as she steps out into the world as a young adult in an effort to pay it forward - there is nothing now that’s going to dim the bright light in this speaker and entrepreneur! Look out world!!!”

Nicole Gabriel
Author of Finding Your Inner Truth

“The seeds of our success will often lay dormant within us until a book such as this awakens and empowers us to be masters of our destiny.”

Luis Fuentes
Author of Lessons From the Lantern

“I was first captivated by Tesia’s story as she delivered a moving speech to a group of aspiring best-selling authors. I immediately knew I wanted a copy of her book. Tesia details her journey along with lessons of transformation, change and leadership. The unconditional love of one man became the catalyst for her and her family to look beyond their circumstances to the unlimited possibilities that exist. This book teaches you how to find the positive in every circumstance in your life. A must read!”

Jeffery Bow
Author of Stop Thinking, Start Believing

“In her book ‘Upgrading Your Future’, Tesia Melani provides parents with the tools to encourage their children to build on a solid foundation and to develop the leadership qualities to be a positive influence for good”.

HC Joe Raymond
Author of Embracing Change from the Inside Out

“This book teaches you how to find the positive in every little event that has happened to you. Pick it up, read it and find your positive!”

Carol Paul
Author of Team Clean

I love the transformational change that can happen when you read this book! Thank you Tesia for making the world a better place!”

Brett Dupree
Author of Joyous Expansion

“Tesia’s entrepreneurship and marketing knowledge is provided throughout this book.... a ‘must read’.”

Julia Keiko Matsui Higa Estrella
Author of Being Local in Hawai‘i

“Tesia’s energy is contagious. She is truly engaged, committed and enthusiastic, and she can help you be the same. You WILL be inspired, and your world will be better if you work with her!”

Andy Weisberg
Author of Laid Off and Crazy Happy

“I am very am impressed by this powerful and inspiring book. Tesia Melani’s wisdom far surpasses her years in age. This empowering and uplifting timeless message will inspire all to step into their hero’s journey and actualize their magnificence, just as this author has.”

Nora Yolles-Young
Author of Healing Effortlessly

“Tesia handles a challenging subject masterfully. She illustrates beautifully how life unfolds in ways we cannot imagine, while giving the reader a sense of strength and courage. This is a must-read!”

Sheila Paxton
Author of Getting Past Jaded

“Upgrading Your Future is a powerful and honest book that gives you the gift of discovering new ways of seeing yourself. Read this book if you’re ready to make positive change happen in your life.”

Jody Rose Helfand, MA, MFA,
Author of Transforming Yourself

“Your hunger for a better life and this book are the perfect match.”

Kim Ann Curtin
Author of Transforming Wall Street

“Tesia is a wise, insightful, caring soul. She has learned to be more, because of life’s circumstances. You can learn much about how to make the most of your life from her.”

Yvonne Vnuk Nielsen
Author of The Power of Pure Love: Mental Fung Shui Verbal Elixirs: Thoughts to Peace of Mind, How to Have Heaven on Earth

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Patrick Snow
Author of Creating Your Own Destiny,
The Affluent Entrepreneur
and Boy Entrepreneur

Upgrading Your Future

Creating New Doors of Opportunity

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Dedication

To my family: Thank you all for being my cheer team in everything I do. You have believed in me, encouraged me and supported me in all areas of life. I love you all.

To my parents, all of you: You have all taught me to never give up and to provide for the ones I love. I’ve learned the importance of making good choices and I respect each one of you. I hope you guys are proud and will aspire to achieve more success for yourselves. Mom, thank you for offering me safety and success.

To my siblings, Tori, Chaz, Starla and Jordan: Your continuous support is immeasurable. This book is for you. You have all taught me patience and understanding. Each one of you has so much to offer this world. My only hopes are for each one of you to live. Become independent and industrious. I believe in you as much as you have always believed in me.

To my nephews, Ezra and Elijah, and to Teighya and Duke: I hope that I can guide you as much as the space you occupy in my heart. My wish is for each of you to grow to be honorable men and women who contribute greatly to the world.

To you, the reader: It is a privilege to help you create new doors of opportunity. It is my honor to be by your side as you take the first step toward upgrading your future.

Acknowledgments

My heavenly father: without the Lord my God I would be nothing. The challenges in my life and the blessings in my life have made me who I am. I am thankful for His son Jesus Christ. I am happy with my life and everyone in it.

I would like to recognize and thank the following people for their impact on my life. Thank you very much for your support. I would also like to thank everyone listed below who have been an inspiration as I wrote this book and live my life:

Claudio Borge IV, Patrick Snow, Nicole Gabriel, Jody Rose Helfand, Yvonne Vnuk Nielsen, Kim Ann Curtin, Salevaa Atisanoe “Konishiki”, Clinton Hirai, Evelyn McLean, Dr. Wynn Okuda, Josiah Kekoa, Sheldon Kaopuiki, Mr. Young, Bob Harrison, Joan Andersen, John Koko, Johnny Kai, Tim Farley, Wendy Loh, Keali‘i Bandmann, Tracie Fujikane, Brandy Sinoto, Hale Pascua, Kawika Villa, Timothy Kwock, Kumu Kahi, Joel Osteen, Dalai Lama, Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Phillip McGraw, Henry Ford, Ellen DeGeneres, Ron Clark, Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, Eric Worre, Rhonda Byrne, Louise L. Hay, Zig Ziglar, Anthony “Tony” Robbins, Donald Trump and Genshiro Kawamoto.

Contents

Introduction: Stepping Stones

SECTION 1: TRANSFORMATION–INITIATING SECYOUR WINNING STREAK

Chapter One: Changing Your Currency

Chapter Two: Winning Wellness

Chapter Three: Rising Above IT

Chapter Four: Mastering the Art of Appreciation

SECTION 2: FOSTERING A POSITIVE SECSELF-IMAGE

Chapter Five: Creating Yourself

Chapter Six: Building Social Media Consciousness #you are what you share

Chapter Seven: Applying Yourself Online #Netiqutte

Chapter Eight: Increasing Your Value #APPS

SECTION 3: LEADERSHIP

Chapter Nine: Investing In You

Chapter Ten: Resetting One’s Consciousness

Chapter Eleven: Navigating the Path

Chapter Twelve: Working for You - Entrepreneurship

SECTION 4: SHARING YOUR VALUE

Chapter Thirteen: Changing How We Live

Chapter Fourteen: Living for Happiness

Chapter Fifteen: Helping Hands

Chapter Sixteen: Empowering

A Final Note

About the Author

About Tésia Melani International

- Introduction -

Stepping Stones

“Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.”

—Dale Carnegie

Where you’re at right now and where you are going will seem to be too far of a journey, too high of a climb, or too difficult of a task. But with the accomplishments and failures that you have experienced in your life, you have everything you need to move forward. Yes, you have everything you need.

I feel stuck. I have no one to look up to. I can’t go to school without money. Only people with successful parents become successful. What’s the point? These negative thought patterns surrounded us day in and day out. I’ve constantly heard people all around ... give up. So what do you do from here? You do the same thing you would do to your phone, computer or anything else you get tired of. You upgrade.

Are you feeling stuck? Is there no sense of direction laid out for you to follow? Do you want to make money? Do you want to experience more happiness? Would you like to be fully happy with whom you are and what you do?

I understand why you have submitted to this type of thought pattern. We need money to live, we need a job for money and we need to spend all of our time at our job to have enough money to live. We program ourselves to take on more than we can handle; we strive for security and freedom but get distracted by the many demands. I understand why our teenagers have surrendered to mediocrity. They search for acceptance through likes and comments on social media instead of accepting themselves. I have been there. I have allowed adversities to trick my mind. I have said every excuse there was when an obstacle stood in my way. I grew up surrounded by poverty, drugs, abuse and negativity. I knew that when I grew up I would be like everyone else I saw... barely getting by. But I woke up one day and realized that ‘this’ was not the life I wanted.

In 2007 I saw a pageant ad in the newspaper. I didn’t think that I had what it took; some of my family didn’t think I did either. The experience required a lot of self-discovery and a lot of upgrading. I had to change the way I walked, sat, spoke and dressed. When I won, I was in complete shock. It was like a switch went off in my head. I chose to be different and I chose to step up despite what others thought of me. This one experience helped me switch my attitude and shift my paradigm.

A few months later, Japanese Billionaire, Genshiro Kawamoto and his assistant knocked on our door. He selected us, one of three families to live in a mansion for two years. His wish was to take three families from substandard communities and place them in one of Hawaii’s finest neighborhoods. He did more than give us a home; he took our blindfolds off and surrounded us with success and possibilities. I realized that Kahala was a new atmosphere according to God’s will when I read what Joel Osteen wrote in his book, Your Best Life Now:

“God wants to place you in an atmosphere of victory.”

The Kahala home became a revelation for the new life I was about to create. I wanted to live a life where I was happy and those around me could experience the same. Living in the heart of the island allowed me to do more and be more. I volunteered in hospitals, homeless shelters, schools and community events. Amongst the thousands of people I helped young and old, I noticed people weren’t dreaming big enough. I am providing this book to a broad audience because our teenagers need guidance, our homeless need resources, and those who want to change need support. Many of life’s experiences have proved to me that opportunities are created. The one stepping stone moving my family from Waianae to Kahala gave me a choice to stop and stay or place more stepping stones before me. Author Richard Wiseman said:

“A wise man creates more opportunities than he finds.”

Your will to change might seem like a journey, especially when most of us are so immediate to take the easy route. You might want to settle and stick to what you know and that’s understandable because it’s your comfort zone. But you picked up this book because you saw a word that looked familiar...Upgrade. If you can upgrade your phone, your computer, or anything else that isn’t working for you anymore; why can’t you upgrade yourself? Upgrading your present will help you upgrade you future.

If you’re unhappy or still wanting more out of life then you need this book as your guide. If you are happy with where you are then give this gift to someone you know who does need it. I had a choice to settle with that one given opportunity or make the most out of it and create new ones. I was tired of doors slamming in my face and experiencing the old adage “when one door closes another one opens”. You probably are too. Let this book be your keys to new doors of opportunities. You control what doors you want to create. You deserve to be upgraded, so that you are compatible with the world around you. The world is always changing and you can always be upgrading. Upgrading your life and upgrading yourself will be your stepping-stones toward a path of Upgrading Your Future.

I want to be your coach. I want you to find your power, find your reason and find your uniqueness that will make you stand out. You can overcome any obstacle, you can look at any situation and find good in it. You can make life happen. In this book you will teach yourself how to be better, act better, do better and feel better. You will learn leadership qualities, transform yourself into the best you can be, foster a positive self-image, invest in you, and challenge yourself. The journey will be rewarding if you’re willing to take the first step.

“Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life.”

Are you ready to begin? My name is Tésia, welcome to the winning team.

- SECTION 1 -

TRANSFORMATION

- Section 1 -

Transformation–Initiating Your Winning Streak

“Sometimes you win and sometimes you learn.”

– Unknown

Are you a winner? You should be nodding your head up and down, throwing your power fist up or saying yes because you are. I’m not talking about winning a hot dog eating competition or the lottery; I’m talking about the competitions within your own life. You have picked up this book in hopes of upgrading your future and in order to do that you must upgrade your present. You must be presently aware of the potential you possess so that you can accept the challenges in your life and win.

Genshiro Kawamoto showed to me what a winner is. He’s a Japanese businessman established as multi billionaire and known for his real estate investments. Now when you hear investments you’re thinking putting your money somewhere for profit. This is not his type of investment he made for my family. Kawamoto has had many properties throughout Japan, California and Hawaii. Out of his twenty plus beautiful properties in Kahala – one of the most lavish cities in Hawaii – he allowed three families living in other substandard communities to live in their own mansions. We were blessed to live amongst change, luxury and possibilities. He took our blindfolds off from only seeing poverty and struggle to a new experience of success and possibilities. He invested in us. His generosity won the act of kindness, inspiration and assistance.

This book presents what my eyes were opened to and how I molded myself into an investment he could be proud of. Instead of me bottling it up, I know that his investment will be profitable for anyone who is willing to strive for success and win all that life has to offer.

In this section you will shape into a winner by learning how to:

• Measure richness in a different way

• Appreciate overall wellness

• Find strength through obstacles

• Develop the habit of saying thank you

For you to get the most out of this book, open yourself up. Break the mental walls in your mind. Write your thoughts, your feelings and your ambitions within these pages. Make this a place of transformation. Create a safe zone in this book. As you participate in these exercises and accept these challenges you will be on your way toward upgrading your future.

- Chapter One -

Changing Your Currency

“Are you feeling poor – change the currency that you use – the currency of love, friendship, camaraderie, gratitude, peacefulness, joy and freedom.”

—Anil Gupta, writer and producer

Can money buy happiness? If you had a choice between $100,000 or a healthy heart which would you choose? Upgrading your future has everything to do with upgrading your present. Becoming aware of yourself and appreciating what you have in the now will allow you to see how rich you really are. Let’s start with being appreciative of your health.

Being the eldest in my household provided me with credentials to be a nanny. Schedule making, clothes organization, food preparation and an immunity to excuses. I cleaned up after two dogs, three siblings, two adults, ten tilapia and a turtle. One afternoon as I worked my way down my to-do list, fold clothes came up next. I emptied the dryer and loaded the laundry basket. While carrying the basket, I turned the corner from the laundry room to the living room and stubbed my toe on a five-gallon-water bottle. Immediately I fell to the floor as undergarments rained around me.

My pinky toe felt as if it broke in half and within seconds it was completely numb. On my way to the hospital I watched it grow and color itself purple. I waited in the emergency room for a short amount of time that felt like hours, x-rays confirmed that my toe was broken. The doctor wrapped my toe in a splint and I suddenly realized something: I need all ten toes to walk.

I wobbled, I tripped and I fell. I often asked myself what the point of ten toes was. It wasn’t until I broke this toe did I realize how grateful I was. While it was broken I noticed that I stubbed that pinky toe a lot because each time I did the pain would radiate up my leg. I thought to myself, what a strong little toe I have. I started to take my injury more seriously and nursed it back to health. I lessened my duties and mentally thanked my body for all of my functions. I showed gratitude in every body part of mine.

A couple months later I went back to the doctors and he was shocked to see how quickly my toe healed. He said I was one of his fastest healing patients. I try to apply my gratitude toward my health because of that story every way that I can. Whether I have allergies, a headache or a cold. I appreciate how hard my body works to keep living. I appreciate how much it fights to get better. Money couldn’t buy me a new toe, but my gratitude for the strength of the rest of my body made me feel richer than ever. Rich in gratitude pushes me to find more things to be thankful for.

So let me ask this question, if you had a choice between $1000 or no broken bones what would you choose? I challenge you to thank your body.

EXERCISE:

PART I: Write down a time when your health wasn’t at 100% and how it affected you. How did you feel?

PART II: Write down your experience as you started to regain strength and feel better. Did it help you appreciate your health?

PART III: How did your life change during an internal and/or external hitch in your health?

When you start valuing different aspects of your life instead of money, you will be given more to appreciate. Upgrading your future means being grateful in the present. Make the decision to change your currency. Acknowledge your wealth in health.

Thanking your body for its health is healthy. Thanking your body for functioning allows it to function more. Thanking your body for its strengths allows it to be stronger. If you are at the optimum health in your life right now, be thankful. If not, be thankful that you have experienced it or you may have time to get there. You always have a decision and by deciding to appreciate, it creates more to be appreciative for. Upgrade your gratitude.

Richness in Love

Why should it be important to price love at the top of your list? Doesn’t love change who you are along with the rest of the world? Look into your wallet right now, how much money can you count at the moment? Now look into your heart and count how many people you love? Think of how temporary the number in your wallet is versus the number in your heart.

Pua Mokuau was a friend to all. She was one of the first female lifeguards for the State of Hawaii and helped start the junior lifeguard program. Caretaker of Ka‘ala farms, one of the few who restored the heiau of ‘Ohi‘amukumuku and my aunt. She helped people recover from substance abuse and was an inspiration for those who wanted to learn more about themselves and their Hawaiian culture.

The day she passed away was one of the most important days of my life. People called her an ambassador of aloha but I never understood the true meaning of that word aloha. Aloha to me was a form of greeting someone or showing kindness.

Pua Mokuau was known as an ambassador of aloha because she taught others how to love themselves. When you love yourself, you know how to help others do the same. In Hawaii we use the world Aloha a lot. My uncle shared with me the day she passed away what he had learned from her. ‘Alo means to share, and ha is the breath of life. When we share our breath of life, our time and our love with someone, it changes them. It affects them. It strengthens them. Win the art of love so that you can give it away. You could be a millionaire of love that donates to everyone you know.

Perhaps you don’t have enough money to financially support someone but what you do have is: love, time and patience. The love currency is immeasurable. After learning the meaning of aloha I understood why others loved my aunt so much. It was because she was rich in love.

I challenge you to enhance the love in your life. Try to execute this list each day:

EXERCISE:

PART I: Write down what you love about yourself. (i.e. The fact that your friends can depend on you, the consideration you have for other’s needs...)

PART II: Think of ways you could offer your love to others. (i.e. You could teach someone how to ride a bike, support a friend at a basketball game...)

PART III: List the people you love in your life and how they showed you love. What can you learn from them?

SUMMARY

In the Disney movie ‘Frozen’, my favorite character, Olaf said:

“Love is placing someone’s needs before your own.”

When you place other’s needs before your own they will hold a special place in their heart for you. When you help others, others will help you. When you love others, others will love you. Love yourself enough to keep balance between your needs and the needs of others. But enhance the love that surrounds you for greater friendships. You never know who you’ll become friends with. Richness in love will lead to stronger friendships, doors of opportunity and an upgrade in your future.

The Value in Friendships

How many friends do you have? How many close friends do you have? Why do you have friends? Are you a good friend?

The currency of friendships depends on who your friends are. What type of people do you hang out with? Someone once told me that you are the sum of the five people you hang out with the most. I’m not saying to get new friends, but I do suggest look at who you’re close to. People who are winners? People whom are successful? People who like change for the good? People who respect others? People who help grow you? If there are any negative people in your life, let them know how they are affecting your life. Help them grow if they want to, and if not keep moving. Find a strong group of people that will help grow you. Find four quarters rather than a hundred pennies.

No matter what friendships that you have developed over the years and how much you have changed, be kind. When you are kind, you change yourself and the world. You will win friends when you learn how to be a good one.

I had a close friend. We had so many similarities and always finished each other’s sentences. We spent every weekend together. Hiking, beach days and acai bowls were our favorite. No matter how much I loved spending time with him I was never comfortable with how he would talk about others. One day I started to realize I was doing the same. I wasn’t perfect either, but I could see how I was changing in a negative way. I realized that I was downgrading myself.

I recognized that I didn’t like the person I was becoming, so I confronted him. He didn’t want to change and that’s understandable. He didn’t realize how he was influencing me in a negative way and didn’t respect my option. But I had the decision to change and in order for me to do that, I had to remove myself. We’re still friends but not as close as we were. I’ve learned to surround myself with people I wanted to be. I molded myself into a friend that I would want. By doing this, I have friends who are goal-oriented, optimistic and supportive just like me. It was hard to make room for change, but there are over six billion people in this world. That’s a lot of potential friendships out there.

Qualities of a good friend:

• Does what they say

• Are dependable

• Admits when they’re wrong

• Are honest

• Are respectful

• Supportive

• Listens

• Cares

I challenge you to increase your currency of friendships by valuing who you have in your life.

EXERCISE:

PART I: List a few of your best friends, your best memory of them and what they do for you that others don’t:

PART II: What kind of friend do you want to attract?

PART III: Name one friend that has helped you through a difficult time. How different would it be if he or she wasn’t there?

Money can buy you friends, but the wrong friends. A friend is someone you can talk to. A friend will get you through a rough time. A friend will support you during an accomplishment and a rough patch in your life. Looking at how rich you are in your friendships will allow you to value camaraderie in a new way.

Peace Will Make You Rich

Who can increase your richness in peace? Who do you think brings you peace? I’ve been through so many tribulations in my life, and I believe you have too. When bad things happen and bad people affect your being you must feel alone, jaded and damaged. Well I did. I couldn’t forgive and I couldn’t let go. It wasn’t until I read a quote by American essayist, lecturer and poet Ralph Waldo Emerson that said:

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”

My really close friend was sexually assaulted by her boyfriend and wasn’t open to sharing her experience until a few years later. I don’t need to get into the deviant details because it’s something she’s made peace with and moved on from. She forgave him and saw it as a challenge in her life that she finally broke through. She was comfortable with moving on after she sought help, worked through it, and encouraged others to do the same.

When she started making peace with her past she found out one of her friends went through an even more horrific experience at his school with several people involved. She found out a close family member of hers had to go through it throughout her entire childhood by someone living in the home. She started to meet people that went through this similar horrible experience when she thought she was the only one. It’s not the only hardship people go through, but she got to see how these different people worked through their situation.

Her friend, who was raped by multiple people in his school bathroom ended up starting a business, pursued his love in music and is happy after he found peace. Her family member has a hard time trusting men but it made her a better independent parent after she found peace. She sat in a seminar where the Dalai Lama spoke and he said, “Don’t let anyone take your peace”. She felt like at that time he was speaking directly to her. In actually what he said is directly toward you right now. Finding peace after someone has hurt you allows you to gain your power back.

I challenge you to dig deep and be honest with yourself.

EXERCISE:

PART I: Name someone who has hurt you physically, emotionally or mentally that you haven’t forgiven yet.

PART II: Actor and producer Will Smith said, “stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotion.”

With that being said I want you to think of how you can forgive them. Because when you forgive them, it will help you. You will gain back your control.

I couldn’t let go of my anger until my aunty gave me some useful advice. When you let go of that anger, sadness and grief you are taking back the power you gave them. It’s not an overnight process; it could be a lifetime. But you will slowly gain that power back. These exercises above offer you something new; it offers you to take full control of your life back. I couldn’t forgive people until I read this quote that changed my life said by Buddha, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

Why do I want to start off with these very personal exercises? It’s so that you can get the most out of this book. This is for you to tend to your wound and make peace with your past so that you may live in the present and prepare for the future. A wound can be covered with a bandage but if the bandage is left there for too long the injury won’t get better. It will fester, infect and spread.

To be open and ready for change, you must consider yourself a winner for getting through all that you’ve accomplished in your life big and small. No matter your struggle or whoever in your life tried to hurt you, I applaud you for just living through it. Life has taught you how to fight your own battles. Author Kathleen Griffin of The Forgiveness Formula said:

“The only person who can change is yourself.”

The Kawamoto home lead me to wonderful people. Kim Ann Curtin known as the “Wall Street Coach” once pulled me on the side after I shared my story with a small group of people and said:

“What we were and what we went through is not who we are.”

Don’t let your past define your future. She also mentioned to never let my past label who I am. Take off your bandage and nurse your wounds. Nurture them and aid them so that they can heal. Making peace with your past, finding peace in your everyday life and keeping peace throughout your future is a currency a lot of people are poor of. I challenge you to find peace within yourself so that you can move on using this formula:

• Realize the hate you feel toward them is only hurting you

• Smile

• Pray about it

• Write in a journal

• Remember the good

• Don’t judge yourself

• Show yourself compassion

• Use it as a challenge you’ve overcome

EXERCISE:

PART I: I want you to write down one of the biggest struggles in your life that you are still holding on to.

PART II: Now, think about a major struggle you workedthrough.

Make peace with your past, enjoy the present and strive for the future. You could be going through misfortune, a mid-life crisis, a break up, loss of a job etc. Whatever your adversity, everyone goes through their own hardship, but some have learned how to win the joys of peace. Making peace with your past means to accept what has happened to you and move forward. Why dwell on an event or thought that will not serve you in any positive way? You are a winner of peace. You are rich in peace. You are upgrading your future by making peace with your past and present.

SUMMARY

You are looking to make sustainable and affirmative change. This chapter initiates a new thought pattern, a new way of looking at happiness and a change in your currency.

Why did I start our dynamic program with these exercises? For the reason, first comes happiness and then comes success. In order to live a healthy and fulfilled life, you must be happy. If money controls your happiness, it will be a long road to reach actual satisfaction my friend. When asked what surprised him the most about humanity, The Dalai Lama answered:

“Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

The purpose I have given these exercises and tools are for you to value the things that are more valuable than money. I am recommending that you become always aware. Don’t let impermanent belongings control you. You already know that money isn’t everything, but I simply reminded you to upgrade your gratitude, become rich in love, value your friendships and find peace within you.

In this chapter you have upgraded your gratitude. Your body appreciates when you thank it. Your parents exist to provide everything you should be thankful for. Your children’s ears ring when your gratitude radiates because of their accomplishments. Your friends cherish the appreciation you have for them. Author Melody Beattie said:

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.”

In this chapter you have earned riches in love. When you share your breath of life, your time and your love with someone, it changes them. It affects them. It strengthens them. By winning the art of love you can give everlasting amounts away. You are a millionaire of love that can donate to everyone you know. Mahatma Gandhi said:

“Where there is love, there is life.”