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Jose Incer

Mastering Success — 2nd ed.

ISBN 978-0-9885288-3-3 (paper)

ISBN 978-0-9885288-2-6 (digital)

I would like to express my eternal gratitude to my wife Deirdre Tannian and my mother Veronica Gutierrez; they are the pillars of strength that keep me going through all ups and downs of life.

To my professors Flavio S. Campos and Santiago Aranegui who have helped me so much. If you see any wisdom or truth in me, it is a glance of their essence.

To my colleagues Guillermo Leon and Miguel A. Gonzalez for all their support and understanding.

A special thanks to Meghan Martinez and Chrissie Tannian for their skillful editing.

And to all my clients; with their unique life experiences that help me grow and expand my horizon.My clients are my teachers.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count.
It's the life in your years."
- Edward J. Stieglitzn

This book is a reference work based on research by the author. The opinion express herein are not necessary those of or endorse by the Publisher.

Printed in the United State of America

Forewords By
Hazel Blanco Ph.D.

Since the time of ancient Greece, a separation has been made between mind and body. This powerful paradigm has had an incredible amount of influence throughout history, even in our current era. Traditional medicine is characterized by making this separation a common practice every day in doctor's offices, clinics, hospitals and research laboratories.

With this in mind, for a long period of time, it was thought that our capacity for change was very little, that our personality, behaviours and habits were formed in our childhood and from this point on there was not much that could be changed, hence the saying " This is how I am and this is how I am going to die." Unfortunately this philosophy serves as a justification for the lifestyle so many people live, even today.

However, in the late 1960's and early 1970's neuroscientists made a series of dramatic discoveries. Research demonstrated that the human brain is moldable. Our brain constantly changes with each activity that we do. Furthermore, a number of scientists have demonstrated that the process of thinking, learning and executing certain activities turns "On" or turns "Off" our genes, therefore shaping our brain anatomy and consequently our behaviour, our body chemistry and the way in which the cells divide.

We are in the midst of a paradigmatic revolution in the way we view the connection between the mind and body and the mind and the brain. Today there is a valid notion that every human being is an integration. What affects the mind is going to affect the body and vice versa. The separation between physical health and mental health is fiction. The WHO (World Health Organization) maintains that the majority of physical and mental illnesses influence one another, through psychological, biological and social factors.

This paradigmatic revolution is great news for the people and therapists who work day after day contributing towards the quality of life that people desire. We are able to accomplish this through the growth and improvements that every person experiences, as we continue to look for the physical, mental and spiritual development. From this point of view every therapist is also a neuroscientist.

When Jose told me that he had written a book I asked him about the topic. He responded that it was about personal, physical and emotional growth, but he immediately stated "I don't want to call it a self-help book." After reading it, I realized that it is a book written by a person who has given himself the task to study, learn and evolve as an individual. He has the reins of his life in his own hands.

With this knowledge he also has taken the decision to become a leader and a shining light to illuminate the path of those who choose to improve their lives. There is a famous quote by Marianne Williamson, that states "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?" and in this book, Jose shows us a path of light to become beings full of light.

This book is more a philosophy of life. It is a choice on how to obtain personal freedom, to acquire the benefits of a full and fruitful life, to become not a spectator but the main actor in our lives. There is a very clear message that this book communicates: " To always be aware that the only one responsible for my life is myself, even if I want to justify my actions by projecting the blame onto others, " that is the first step to be taken.

It is all about having a choice on how I'm going to build the life that I want, a choice not to live in fear but rather having the courage to take chances. There are people who say they fear the future, I would say to them that the future can be seen now. Most people act surprised even shocked when I make this statement. I explain to them that if they want to know how their future will be, all they have to do is look at their lives in the present, because the decisions made or not made in the present, will be what they will have in the future. The same way that the present is what they did or did not do in the past.

That is the work of Jose in this book, a philosophy on life to grow and evolve as a person, as a human being but in an integrative way: physical, emotional, mental, social and spiritual.

A few years ago I read a quote that is attributed to Democritus "Men ask in their prayers for health from the gods, but do not know that the power to attain this lies in themselves," and definitely, with this book, that is the great contribution that Jose passes down to all of us. The improvement in the quality of life, to become a light and to shine.

Introduction

More and more people are seeking to achieve a higher level of consciousness and self-empowerment; one in which they manage their own destiny by unleashing their inner strength and resources. This dynamic process begins with the understanding that we hold the key to all our achievements and successes, by the same token it is essential to realize that we also hold the dagger of failure, if we choose to.

The truth is that we are living in exciting times. We are in the midst of a great shift in consciousness. Slowly, we are realizing that we carry all the answers with us. This allows us to recognize that we can be at peace even in the most stressful environment or be miserable in the most pleasant place imaginable. It is all up to us, and that is empowering.

It is always with great joy that I watch a client and fellow human being continue to move forward in his/her personal, professional and spiritual life. All of us are here in this world on a special mission, to learn and evolve. It is for this reason that I decided to write this book. It is my wish that the knowledge on these pages will help you achieve a better life.

You have the right to live a balanced, productive, and successful life. Just like everyone else, you have goals that you want to achieve. I want to help you acquire them whatever you need or desire can be yours. Let me assure you that you can attain all your goals if you grasp the understanding to know what to do and how to do it. By writing this book, all I'm doing is sharing information of things you might have sensed or felt in the past but could not quite understand it. So it is up to you to accept or reject any of the principles and concepts presented here. Always do your best to keep an open mind and remember that knowledge is essential for personal and collective growth.

You might not be aware but every event you encounter in your daily life has a beginning in the deepest level of your mind; you are responsible for every single experience you encounter. It's true, what you believe to be reality is no more than a collection of perceptions, programs, and opinions that you have about yourself and the world around you.

With this book you will learn practical techniques for meditation, visualization, self hypnosis, developing your intuition, and bringing energy and healing to your life. Use your judgment in performing these techniques; practice the exercises you feel comfortable with and disregard the others. All the exercises are simple, easy, and fast. Of course, these exercises require an effort of the will and you may not be entirely successful at first, but keep practicing and you will succeed. I have worked with many clients from all walks of life. We utilize these same simple exercises I describe in this book to successfully heal numerous conditions and to achieve their personal, professional, and spiritual goals. Sometimes the change might be pretty small but if you maintain that change over a period of time you will eventually get closer to your goals and away from the place you no longer want to be. Of course, in most cases the bigger the change the less time it will take you to achieve your goals.

Let me make this clear; there is an immense amount of information written and taught regarding the power of the mind and the connection between mind, body and soul. Literally, there are thousands of books, e-books, articles and scripts telling you how to get rich, how to be number one at work, how to perform at your peak in sports and in academia. All this shared knowledge is great but it is not quite so simple for everyone to learn how to utilize the power of the mind. After all, the mind is the most powerful instrument in the universe.

My intention for sharing this information that I have received through intense research, study and practice is to help you improve your life, and avoid a long and slow process to resolve personal issues or achieve the goals you have set for yourself. All the information, knowledge, exercises, and tools that I share with you in this book is exactly the same information that I share and implement in my private practice every day.

Let's cut to the chase. Nobody knows more about you than yourself. Since all the experiences of your life are stored in your mind, you are the captain of your vessel. So, if you are trying to improve your life, first you want to learn and understand yourself on a deeper level before you can put your mind to work for you. It is very simple, a lot of people feel stuck, they keep doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I will share with you the process to break out of this cycle.

When you begin processing information in a new way, you will be able to experience new things; you will start to open new doors and opportunities and you will be able to make the best of them. I will also show you how important is to take action; by putting into practice these steps you will increase your success and achievements. Remember no one else can take action for you, no matter how desperate your family and friends try to help, it is always up to you to take the initiative.

How it all began

My journey began with an interest in understanding the human mind. After years of searching different avenues and reading endless amount of literature, my search took me to the Institute of the Study of Mind and Hypnotherapy in Miami, Florida. I decided to enroll in their hypnotherapy courses. The institute is very well known for its exceptional comprehensive curriculum, which includes philosophy, psychology, physiology, nutrition, esoteric teachings and more. The institute has been voted best hypnotherapy center several years in a row by the IACT (International Association of Counsellors and Therapists). I was very fortunate to have the opportunity to study under two great minds "Los Maestros" Professor Santiago Aranegui Ph.D. and Professor Flavio Campos Ph.D. I achieved my certification as a clinical hypnotherapist from IACT (The International Association of Counsellors and Therapists) and IMDHA (The International Medical and Dental Hypnotherapy Association) followed by certifications in Life Coaching and Master NLP Practitioner (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) from Bennett/Stellar University. TimeSlips therapy from the University of Wisconsin.

I am Professionally trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and IBSR (Integration Based Stress Reduction). Along the way I also achieved certifications as a Personal Trainer, Nutrition and Wellness Consultant, Weight Management Consultant, and Yoga fitness instructor (Presented here is a condensed description of my training).

As a Life Coach and practitioner of Clinical Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming my career means so much more than just a source of income. I establish a partnership with every client. We are on the same team, engaged in a high stakes chess match against one or several opponents. Who are these opponents you may ask. The opponents are negative suggestions, programs, habits, or addictions. These opponents somehow along the way got implanted deep inside in the client's mind. My job is to take the pieces the client has on the board and help them make the right moves to get the desired outcome. It is very important to understand that everyone has issues, no matter how perfect the life of others might seem. Realizing that fact is very simple; everyone in this world is here to learn and evolve.

We are in a new millennium where we have to change. Eventually everyone will understand and participate in this huge shift in collective consciousness. We need to leave behind the old way of life where we are constantly exhausted, always in a rush, trying to get things done. We need to take the time to look inwards and understand that we are living in a very special era. The old left brain analytical way of thinking won't be enough to handle this shift. You need to pay attention to your intuition, your dreams, your emotions to be able to stay positive, to protect yourself, and to attract all the right conditions to evolve as a human being and as a spiritual energy.

In recent times, we have collectively conditioned ourselves to surf through hundreds of channels on TV, listen to music everywhere we go and spend countless hours downloading the latest videos or apps on our smart phones. We do all this to distract the mind from the body in order to relax or prevent boredom. Sadly, when we disconnect our minds from our bodies, we disassociate not only from what our body is doing but from how we feel mentally and emotionally.

It is time to make the conscious decision to switch our approach to life. The answer lies in the integration of mind and body; integration is the secret element for a gratifying, satisfactory and healthy lifestyle.

Always keep this book close to you, study it, refer to it. I hope with this knowledge you'll discover the path to success, happiness and the life you desire.

A Note
From Guillermo Leon C Ht.

Sometimes people hold on to a belief system with the assump-tion that this same belief system might make them somehow unique; instead they end up being a victim of this system. Believe it or not, about five years ago I was one of these victims. My mind embarked in the relentless pursuit to become unique. I created an illusion by trying to resolve all my problems by seeking revenge on all my "enemies." It took me some time to discover and understand that the battle was not with the "outside world," the real battle was raging within me, with my own thoughts and actions.

You may ask "what led to the realization to make such a profound statement like the one above?" It all started in the same classroom where Jose Incer and I met. Our life journey brought us to this special place where we started to acquire some of the answers we were searching for; answers that allowed us to learn and understand how to avoid the causes of negative outcomes but more importantly to pave the way to a successful life. Through the course of time we have expanded our horizons by spending countless hours studying and researching a wide spectrum of knowledge. This is how I discovered some of the qualities that Jose Incer possessed. His special inquisitive nature and his dramatic outlook drives not only his determination to succeed but also made it possible for me to understand that he will not stop until he does great things for humanity.

His work Mastering Success is not only the result of unceasing careful research and interpretation but also the result of his ability to combine his own life experiences on a case by case basis. It is this constant effort, dedication and will that allow him to move forward.

This book is about taking control of your belief system with a process that is simple, far simpler that most people realize. This is not an elaborate process of complicated theories and concepts explaining why people's lives are unbalanced. Instead, it is the simple road to understand the process between creating something and making something up. In other words the way we perceive and interpret the world around us. It is a reminder that sadness, anxiety or low self esteem are all complicated illusions made up in our minds.

Sometimes people hold back because they think that their problems are going to be with them forever. The good news is that it is possible to enjoy freedom from most of our problems. How do you do this? When you think differently for the better, then you act differently for the better.

Mastering Success is a behavioral and philosophical guide with esoteric components that demonstrate a simple way for anyone to improve his or her life. It is a source to find some of the answers to materialize our dreams, to find the path to freedom and control our own destiny.

Part One

The Power Of Listening

"Listening looks easy, but it's not simple. Every head is a world."
- Anonymous

You probably think that you know yourself pretty well. You might be partially right on assuming this. After all only you know exactly what is going on in your head. You are aware of what motivates you and what makes you tick; or do you only think you know? Sometimes it can be very difficult for us to see and hear ourselves as we really are.