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Names: Divilly, Pat, author.
Title: Upgrade your life : how to take back control and achieve your goals / Pat Divilly.
Description: Chichester, United Kingdom : John Wiley & Sons, 2017. | Includes index.
Identifiers: LCCN 2016027832| ISBN 9780857087263 (pbk.) | ISBN 9780857087256 (epub)
Subjects: LCSH: Goal (Psychology) | Change (Psychology) | Success.
Classification: LCC BF505.G6 D58 2017 | DDC 650.1–dc23 LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2016027832
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ISBN 978-0-857-08726-3 (paperback) ISBN 978-0-857-08710-2 (ebk)ISBN 978-0-857-08725-6 (ebk)
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Dedicated to my parents who taught me the value of working hard, living simply and the importance of being kind to anyone who crosses my path. For this and so much more, I am thankful and grateful I get to be your son.
Before you can change the marketplace or people's attitudes, you must first change what's going on between your ears. When I wrote Upgrade Your Life, I did so with some very strong intentions in mind. I want to provide you with a structured plan that will enable you to achieve your goals in life and business, but more importantly, I want to change your perspective.
This isn't a book filled with positive affirmations, nor is it a book that will dole out the same ol' information you've read in many a self-improvement book before. I regularly give motivational seminars, and each one has been a massive success with every seat selling out in no time. My seminars were so successful because the information I provided to those in attendance actually worked. It was an equal blend of theory with action. I have now taken my formula for success and put it into this book for you to use. The exercises and ideas in this book helped me go from working in a pizza restaurant to having my own fitness business with 10,000 clients all over the world. It helped my 50-year-old client Tommy Palmer go from being unhappy and overweight to qualifying as a personal trainer; it has helped 34-year-old Gill go from being unhappy with her life to taking charge and opening two now hugely successful restaurants. You will read more about Tommy's and Gill's stories later on in the book.
We upgrade our cars, our computers, and our phones, but what about our rituals, our mind-sets, and our ways of thinking? Trust me, when you start to dream creatively and take action, you discover a whole new perspective of how great things could be. There's any amount of self-help books out there – it's an industry in itself – but what I want to introduce in this book is a practical approach to this. It's a combination of my own experience and lessons learned from my own mentors.
Of all the lessons and rituals outlined in this book, improving the way in which you speak to yourself is ultimately the most important one of all in this process. Willpower with the success journal will only get you so far. To enjoy sustainable change over time, you will need to improve your internal dialogue as this will become the most pivotal factor. I'm sure this is something you have read before, especially if you're a reader of self-development books. Now is the time you need to apply this advice.
I was absorbed in the whole self-improvement genre as a teenager but I didn't apply the information I was reading, which was why I wasn't enjoying results back then. That's a big problem with these types of books. Application is crucial but it's the one thing most people fail to do.
I'm a student of self-development and as nerdy as it might seem, I spend a lot of my free time attending seminars all over the world. Often I will leave a full-day seminar after just an hour because I will have acquired the one piece of information I need to take action on an idea. I believe if we took action on 10% of what we already know, we could be incredibly successful. Most of us have the information we need to do things like lose weight, make money, enjoy better relationships, etc. Where we fall is in the application of this information.
Self-development books will either raise your self-esteem or your shelf-esteem. So are you buying them to have a more impressive book shelf or are you buying them because you actually want to improve your life in ways you never thought possible? Unlike other books, Upgrade Your Life will force you to apply everything you learn within these pages. The success journal at the end of the book will further help you turn my advice into life-changing habits. While I often reference business owners and entrepreneurs throughout the book, it is certainly not limited to those who are self-employed. In fact, the Upgrade Your Life rituals can be implemented right across the board.
Most books get read and left on the shelf. I want you to scribble all over this one. I have created exercises I want you to fill out, and left spaces for notes I want you to make. It's important that you do these. Don't skim over them. They are there for a reason. As kids in school, we drew, we wrote, our imaginations ran free. We spent as much time dreaming with our eyes open as we did with them closed. Let's get back to that creative process. If you don't want to write on the book itself, then get yourself a notebook and complete the exercises in that, so that you can repeat this routine for future goals in different areas of your life.
Remember, everything comes down to thoughts, words, and actions, especially success. When you write something on paper, it becomes a little more real, when you verbalize it, the idea starts to grow because you talk it into existence. When you take action, however, that's when you start to see the biggest change. The success journal will help you with those three crucial elements.
The success rituals, guidelines, and principles I share with you in this book are to be carried out for six weeks straight. If you heed my advice and implement them for those 42 days, then there is no doubt about it – your life will change. You might be wondering why six weeks? I chose six weeks because I know from my own experience that you will witness tangible results in that timeframe.
None of these rituals will work in isolation, however. It's not enough to carry out just one guideline, you must implement them all over the six-week period. Don't worry, the success journal at the end will help keep you on track.
As you make your way through Upgrade Your Life, you will understand that the key to accomplishment is through a combination of consistency and the compound effect (i.e. small steps carried out on a daily basis over a consistent period of time). Once you make these rituals a non-negotiable part of your daily routine, you will see one result: success. Everything becomes a lot easier. You become more productive, your relationships are better, your health improves, you are more focused, more grounded, not to mention less stressed. And those are just some of the side effects!
People are not taking time to think about what they want. If you don't think about what you want, then you just fall into receiving whatever is left. Upgrade Your Life will not only help you establish what you want from your life, it will radically change and improve your mind-set so you are best placed to achieve your goal.
By the time you have finished this book, you will be a different person. In the meantime, start preparing yourself for a big change and above all, don't be afraid to think big! Your ideas are free, your thoughts are free, you have nothing to lose and an amazing life to gain.