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Meditations for Mothers

Moments with God Amidst a Busy Nest

Elisa Morgan




Copyright

Meditations for Mothers

Copyright © 1999 by Elisa Morgan

Cover art to the electronic edition copyright © 2012 by Bondfire Books, LLC.

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retrieval systems, without permission in writing from the publisher, except by a reviewer who may quote brief passages in a review.

Electronic edition published 2012 by Bondfire Books, LLC.

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ISBN EPUB edition: 978-0-7953-2366-9

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To Munna

Thank you for loving birds
and for directing my gaze
to follow yours in so much of life

Contents

Title Page

Copyright Page

Introduction: Longing for Time with God

Part One—Nesting Instinct

When You Need a Rest

Admit Your Need

Close to His Heart

Safe Nests

Losing Your Stress

Part Two—Nest-building

Just the Way You Are

No Regrets

Knowing When to Stop

Put Yourself into Your Mothering

Layering God’s Lessons in Your Life

Part Three—Birds of a Feather

When You’re Lonely

Mommy Wars

Love Birds

Is Your Way the Only Way?

Learn from Other Mothers

Part Four—Bird Seed

Are You Hungry for God?

Developing a Taste for God

When There’s Not Enough of You to Go Around

Don’t Worry

God Has Something for You—Every Day!

Part Five—Songbirds

Put a Song in Your Heart

God Hears Your Cries

Do You Have a Safe Spot to Sing?

Silent Songs

Songs from a Bird Cage

Part Six—Thorns, Snares, and Storms

Choosing Between Staying and Straying

God Wants to Gather You Up

When a Sparrow Falls to the Ground

Free Yourself

Make Room for God’s Plans

Part Seven—The View from the Nest

Teach Your Children Well

Remember Your Goal as a Mom

Practice Today for Tomorrow

Migration Time

The Impact of Today on Tomorrow

Afterword

Source Books

REST IS NOT IDLENESS, AND TO LIE SOMETIMES ON THE GRASS UNDER THE TREES ON A SUMMER’S DAY LISTENING TO THE MURMUR OF WATER, OR WATCHING THE CLOUDS FLOAT ACROSS THE SKY, IS BY NO MEANS A WASTE OF TIME.

SIR T. LUBBOCK

Introduction

Longing for Time with God

Shortly after we were married, Evan and I lived in a cozy little ranch-style house. My favorite part of the house was the kitchen—the kitchen window to be exact. In those days, before children, I often spent time at that kitchen window with God, gazing out at petunias in summer and golden aspen in fall. Unhurried and uninterrupted, these times with God fed my soul.

The spring of my daughter’s birth brought the highlight view. While washing dishes one day, I looked up to find a bird building a nest on the roof beam of our covered patio. Twig after twig, branch after branch, she flew away and back until her messy makings revealed a cuplike wreath of safety. Home.

Over the next few weeks, I watched her hunker down over her eggs, leaving only for the briefest moments. She received visits from another sparrow—Daddy, I presumed. One day, scrawny heads popped up over the edge of the nest and, with open-mouthed demands, welcomed themselves into the world. For weeks I’d climb up on my kitchen counter, watch the birds, and enjoy God’s creation.

We have since moved from that house. Today the view from my kitchen sink has changed. As I wash dishes, I watch handstands and somersaults, not birds and nature. Instead of golden aspens, I gawk at the TV. I sort through my mental to-do list and often find prayer left untouched at the end of the day.

Children have changed my freedom to spend time with God. Where once I had easy access to him, now noise and busyness and, well, children stand in my way.

I suspect most moms share my struggle. Caught between the demands of sports activities, homework, church programs, and a desire to provide decent meals and family time, most of us have precious little left for God. When’s the last time you prayed without falling asleep? or journaled about God’s work in your life? or read your Bible without interruption?

In Psalm 84:1–2, the psalmist writes of a similar plight:

How lovely is your dwelling place,

O LORD Almighty!

My soul yearns, even faints,

for the courts of the LORD;

my heart and my flesh cry out

for the living God.

In this pilgrimage psalm, written to be sung by those traveling to the temple to make restitution for their sins and to worship God, the psalmist writes of a longing of the heart for God. Because the Old Testament required a high priest to make sacrifices for specific sins, worshipers longed for the temple and the priest so they could obtain forgiveness and access to God.

Verse three goes on,

Even the sparrow has found a home,

and the swallow a nest for herself,

where she may have her young—

a place near your altar,

O LORD Almighty, my King and my God.

The psalmist envies the birds who nest daily in the temple and therefore enjoy a daily presence in God’s dwelling.

Mothers are among today’s faint of heart who long for a time with God. While we no longer need a high priest to provide the forgiveness Christ offers through his death on the cross, we still long for the “temple” of time with God. Parent pilgrims grow weary and cry out for God.

This book is about taking a tip from the swallow in the psalm. She built her nest in a place near God’s altar. She lived where God lived. We moms who long for God don’t have to go somewhere special to find him. We can spend time with God when we build a nest near him and then enjoy everyday moments in it with him.

The following meditations are written to help you find moments with God in the midst of a busy nest. They’re short and simple, so you can fit them into your day. At the same time, their messages are designed to stir your thoughts during these days and offer you calm and perspective in your daily life. Accompanying each meditation are questions to ponder called “Feather Your Nest,” as well as a prayer for the day.

It’s true that we can see God’s presence in our lives through many illustrations from creation: the changing weather, animals, the mountains, the ocean. Somehow the pictures of a nest and nesting uniquely capture the challenges mothers face in raising and feeding their young while in desperate need of food themselves.

It’s been over six years since we moved into our present house. My son, Ethan, just built a birdhouse with his dad. When it came time to hang it up, there was no question as to where it should go: on the deck outside the breakfast room window. If I raise the blinds, stand on tiptoe, and crane my neck just right, I can see it from the kitchen sink.






PART ONE

Nesting Instinct

RESTING IN THE VERY PRESENCE OF GOD

Hope is the thing with feathers

That perches in the soul,

And sings the tune without the words,

And never stops at all…

EMILY DICKINSON








Bird Fact

BIRDS ARE AMONG THE WORLD’S MOST SKILLFUL NEST BUILDERS. FEW OTHER CREATURES EXHIBIT SUCH A VARIETY OF ARCHITECTURE OR MATERIALS.

ALEXANDER WETMORE,
SONG AND GARDEN BIRDS OF NORTH AMERICA

FOXES HAVE HOLES AND BIRDS OF THE AIR HAVE NESTS, BUT THE SON OF MAN HAS NO PLACE TO LAY HIS HEAD.

MATTHEW 8:20

When You Need a Rest

Just when we’re finally ready to lay our weary heads down on our pillows at night, there comes a request for another glass of water or money for the field trip, or “Puuuuuhhhlleeeezzzz, Mom, my shirt has to be clean for school tomorrow.” One midnight when my son, Ethan, was about six, he appeared at the side of my bed and awakened me with a question about sex—and how people “do it.” I muttered a simplistic reply, but sleep came very slowly after that.

It seems our sleep is constantly interrupted by someone else’s need! We’re nudged awake by a baby’s muffled cry, a stuffed animal lobbed across our pillow, or an early-morning plea for cereal.

Jesus understands our exhaustion. He didn’t even have a home of his own during the draining days of his ministry. The Bible conveys event after event where Jesus was “up early in the morning” or confronted by the diseased of “the whole town.” Following Jesus’ example in our mothering can, indeed, be costly, and the currency is often our much-needed sleep. Unlike Jesus, we have a place to lay our heads. We just don’t have any time.

Jesus not only understands our weariness, he offers a solution by contrasting his own lack of home with the fact that even birds have nests. In order to survive and thrive in these days of mothering, we need to build a home in God and time with him in it.

This is a hard task isn’t it? Evidently, it’s hard even for the birds. Naturalists tell us that our earth is quickly losing habitats for birds. Nesting spots are vital to the continuation of the species, so environmentalists fight to protect them.

Unfortunately, Sweet Mom, no one is going to protect and provide such a spot for us! Building a home with God is an undertaking we must choose for ourselves. A ten-minute reading of a favorite psalm while our child is napping. Quiet moments of prayer in the car on the road from daycare to work. Suds-filled bathtimes late at night where we wash away the strain by reviewing all God has done in and through us that day. Nesting spots are moments when we intentionally build refreshment into our days where we can rest in the presence of God.

Following Jesus in our everyday lives may mean that we are up before the sun and asleep long after others in our households, but it doesn’t mean that we have no rest at all.

Feather Your Nest

  1. Do you identify with the need to find time with God?
  2. Is there some way in which you’ve been expecting someone else to do this for you?
  3. How can you find moments with God for yourself?

Prayer

Dear God, help me understand that while you had no place to lay your head, I can always “lay my head down” in my relationship with you. In you, I can build a nest of rest for myself. Show me, today, where such a “nest moment” is and help me to rest in it when I see it.








Bird Fact

PROPAGATION IS WORK. REAL WORK. HOW A BIRD MANAGES TO CHARM A MATE, DESIGN AND CONSTRUCT A NEST, INCUBATE EGGS, FEED HATCHLINGS INCESSANTLY, AND DEFEND ITS TERRITORY, SEEMS AN EXHAUSTIVE, IF NOT IMPOSSIBLE FEAT.

MARYJO KOCH, BIRD EGG FEATHER NEST

BLESSED ARE THE POOR IN SPIRIT, FOR THEIRS IS THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN.

MATTHEW 5:3

Admit Your Need

A friend of mine herded four children (five to fifteen years old) about while her husband traveled for work. A long day with unending demands sapped every ounce of good intentions she’d aimed at being a “good mom” that day. In desperation, she grabbed the first harmless item she saw, and launched a Lunchable at her youngest, hollering, “Get your act together!” After dissolving in tears, she and her children laughed at the preposterous “weapon” she’d used to defend herself against her own neediness.