Make the right decisions & enforce them, use convincing strategies to achieve your goals, persuade & inspire people with your opinion
Simone Janson (ed.)
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Win Conflicts, Secure your Power Position & Status
1st edition, 24.06.2020
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If women are trapped within the system of validity hierarchy, they must take personal criticism to heart. On the other hand, when they realize that the rules of a domination hierarchy are valid, they can think about how to get to the next point.
Or simply put, the men do not have to like a boss, not as a woman, not as a person, they must and should only respect them in their position. This is something completely different.
When you take this angle, you will notice that you become much more effective. It is precisely what the other side is consciously or unconsciously trying to avoid.
Men are also fighting for rank, but with different means and arguments. This is not noticeable to women by their factual orientation but often not at all. They first register the supposedly personal attack on themselves.
But the personal thing about it is above all that the men do not even want to let a potential competitor play along. That's the best solution from their point of view. And it also often works because the women are insulted, scared, angry, and leave the terrain to the men.
A good method, the men notice, and so on. The anti-odds argument also works like this: "Then bad women would come, oh dear, oh dear." And that, although the quota only applies to the same qualification.
But the game works, high-ranking women even express themselves publicly: "No, we don't want the quota." Instead of saying, "Nice try, I know what I'm doing anyway."
For the men, the game has worked well so far. Even though it has been the subject of intense debate lately, there is no law that would dictate quotas for companies.
It is interesting that women are so dependent on the critical eye and constantly wait for confirmation, instead of giving it to themselves first and to insist that by good self-marketing their counterpart sooner or later share this impression.
And, don't worry, cleverly expanding your own spectrum of behavior does not mean “masculinizing”. It is important to always reflect on your own role and to analyze the playing field as a system. Tom Schmitt and Michael Esser, authors of the book Status Games, know: "The clearer the inner attitude, the easier it is to achieve a high status."
Male executives are more likely to be at the top, organize and control the work of their employees and arrange. Women, on the other hand, tend to organize their work as a circle, as well as with their employees, to implement them and usually maintain a team-oriented communication style.
According to their holistic approach, women favor joint project discussions and attach great importance to the dialogue with their employees. The communication can flow directly between the individual task areas and is not limited to arrangements from above.
Such a female communication style has many advantages for the company - but has so far only been recognized in very few cases when advancing. Above all, women fail because of a lack of “promotion efficiency”, says Bonn management trainer Monika Henn.
She found in an empirical study that male executives differ from their employees in assertiveness and resilience, while female executives do so in flexibility and high team orientation.
These features are helpful for a leadership role. However, whether in self-marketing, networking, strategic and political considerations or power struggles, women are more backward than men.
This hinders the direct way upwards. Competition-oriented behavior is already familiar to men from their games in childhood. They are, from a small point of view, practiced to establish their rankings and to present victory and independence.
Through their communicative behavior, men in the different groups, in which their professional life takes place, constantly establish the social hierarchy in the power system. It is clarified who is the stag, who is the second, third, etc. For most men, though an unconscious, yet familiar process.
Women, on the other hand, are often alien to this mechanism. As sensitive as they are to interpersonal behavior as a rule, it does not know what is going on at this level. The reason is that the code is simply unfamiliar to them.
In order to recognize hierarchical structures, field observation helps according to the motto: “respect but not fear of top dogs”.
"I finally want to be taken seriously!" Many people say to themselves who want to clearly and clearly represent their interests in their professional and private lives. But how do you do that without becoming a ruthless asshole?
People who can not or do not want to use their elbows are usually at a disadvantage. Because often they feel that they have to be used to taking seriously, ruthless or hard-hitting behavior and thick coat.
The popular belief that one must prevail against others in order to achieve one's own goals has become deeply rooted in the minds.
When it comes to enforcing, however, it is about winning out of a debate or a conversation. And where a winner is, there are always losers. But that is not for everyone. And it goes differently!
To meet the other person at eye level, to bring him on board, even if he disagrees, fits much more into today's times and is much more promising. The laws of this type of communication are excellent - and very simple! - clarify with the status concept.
The status concept comes from the improvisational theater. Keith Jonstone, the founder of the modern improvisational theater, has discovered him in his work with actors. It states that drama and humor arise from situations in which individual players deliberately lower or increase their own social status.